Why NCS Exists: A little bit of history…
A little over twenty years ago, Jim Lane, a former Goldman Sachs Partner, realized that his life was out of control, and he was lacking meaningful friendship with other men.
“I was not in a good place. With every success I had really ever dreamed of professionally, in a lot of other ways my life was a wreck… my marriage, my kids, my faith. I was isolated and alone, and when I looked around, I saw a lot of guys like me. Frankly, I was being spiritually selfish when I started this… I needed this, and a lot of other men did too.”
The combination of worldly success and isolation led Jim to a lifestyle that was dragging him down and causing pain to others in his life. He invited a small group of men into his New Canaan home, and into his life, and began the process of transformation. While there were no dramatic changes overnight, the encouragement of these men and the power of the Holy Spirit has put Jim on a better path—certainly not a path of perfection, as there has continued to be stumbles along the way.
Jim’s transparency about his own bad choices, his current struggles, and the consequences of his mistakes has set the tone for other men to discuss their challenges as well. Our culture today equates vulnerability with weakness, but we believe it is a strength.
We welcome imperfect men, and are a community of grace. We recognize that with the best intentions, we continue to fall. We strive to encourage men to be the men that God has designed them to be, and our goal is to equip and encourage each other to become better husbands, fathers, sons, employees and friends.
The meetings at Jim’s home began to grow, and the New Canaan Sociey was officially launched as a non-profit organization in 2001. As men were introduced to NCS at annual retreats, some decided to host similar meetings—our second chapter launched in Winston Salem in 2005. This movement has grown to over 25,000 men involved in over 65 local chapters nationwide.
The goal of each chapter is to have a positive impact men who can then be better servant leaders in their homes and communities. (In the not too distant future, have something that says “check out some of the stories of changed lives, changed relationships and changed communities”—we can come up with a bunch and we need some female testimonials as well).