Dr. Rob Reimer helps us begin to unpack the “suitcase of our soul” by transparently sharing how he learned to unpack his after realizing early in his marriage that his wife didn’t really like him any more. With humor and insight, Reimer explains how he discovered and walked through the two key steps to “cleaning out our dirty laundry”. First, we must walk in the light with God and others. Second, we must access the presence and power of God and allow the Holy Spirit to shine light in our suitcase.
General Dees (Ret) shares his insights on how to weather the storms of life, including what he calls the “Resilience Life Cycle”. He explains how to (1) build resilience before a storm, (2) weather the storm when it comes and (3) bounce back after the storm. Dees then does a deeper dive into dealing with bitterness and anger by choosing forgiveness and gratitude.
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Jay Stringer provides a path forward to healing by pointing us back to the stories that shape our thought lives, sexual fantasies and unwanted sexual behaviors. His research suggests that the nature of our fantasies and unwanted sexual behavior (including things like the search terms used when looking for pornography) are revelatory of our past lives, childhood issues and experiences, and situations we are now facing. Unfortunately, we are so busy apologizing to God for our behavior that we rarely take the time to explore what our behavior reveals.
Although men are usually surprised when they start making connections between their stories and their behavior, Stringer believes that God is neither surprised nor shamed by our behavior because the work of redemption is played out through our brokenness. Jay emphasizes that we have a kind and curious creator, pointing to Romans 2:4 (“It is the kindness of God that leads to change”).
Stringer explains that working through the hurt of our stories is critical because, without it, we end up hurting those around us. Quoting Richard Rohr, Stringer counsels “The pain we do not transform we transmit. Always someone else has to suffer because I do not know how to.”
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Michael Nyenhuis shares the incredible faith journey that began with the tragic death of his son at the age of 18. Michael tells how he, himself, was figuratively “raised from the dead” following his son’s death through a series of miraculous experiences and “coincidences”. Nyenhuis explains that, through this remarkable journey, God has taught him “He is real; He is present; that the veil between here and heaven–between the whole of God’s creation–is very thin; that my son is alive; that I will, in fact, see him again; that everything I once believed I now know for certain to be true: that God is great, that He is careful with us, that He does things in His own time, but we can have confidence that those things will play out for our best purposes.”
Nick DeMarco shares the incredible journey that took him from Brooklyn to the glamorous world of high fashion during the peak of Studio 54. It was a journey of achievement as he desperately tried to fill a void with all that the world told him was important. When his second marriage was crumbling, Nick called out to God and picked up a Bible. Everything changed as he began to trade God’s definition of success for the world’s. The second leg of his journey has seen tragedy and narrow escapes–a road to Heaven as God has drawn him closer and closer.