With extraordinary vulnerability, humility and courage, Chris York shares his battle with the generational brokenness of addiction, as well as the victory that has set free his children and generations to follow. In describing that battle, Chris reflects on the damage done to those he loved and on what he has learned about himself. He also explains his strategies for freedom and highlights how his wife’s remarkable forgiveness and NCS brotherhood were key components in the victory.
Peter Scalzo shares, with great vulnerability, how his 14-year cancer journey (which has included 15 surgeries, being told 6 times he has cancer, being told twice that he should make “end of life” preparations, and being told by the world’s top oncologists that he should not be alive) has been used by God as a tool of transformation and how it has been more of a spiritual and emotional trial than a physical one. Scalzo reveals that it was the reflections of a cancer widow that led him to consider the legacy he was leaving his children–she told him that her husband “didn’t leave enough of himself behind”.
After considering his legacy, Scalzo wanted to leave his six children with the two key ingredients that have allowed him to find hope in his suffering–“surrender and trust”. In explaining what “surrender” and “trust” have come to mean to him, Scalzo reveals his conclusions that we are unable to control anything other than how we respond to our circumstances and that pain is an invitation to change.
Scalzo also shares, with incredible transparency, a “dark night of the soul” experience in 2015 when he spent four days in an ICU. He tells about the depths of his depression, fear, anger and sadness and, more importantly, how God showed up to reveal 23 truths that brought back hope and continue to allow him to face extraordinary circumstances with unimaginable peace.
Jay Stringer brings a refreshing, revelatory and even revolutionary new approach to dealing with unwanted sexual behavior. He reveals how the only lasting path out of unwanted sexual behavior is a path that involves (1) “listening to our lust” to understand our past (the roots of unwanted sexual behavior), (2) running TO something more beautiful rather than running FROM our unwanted behavior, and (3) doing it all in a supportive community.
Stringer’s research suggests that the nature of our fantasies and unwanted sexual behavior (including things like the search terms used when looking for pornography) are revelatory of their “why”–whether it stems from our past lives, childhood issues and experiences, or situations we are now facing.
Stringer explains that traditional approaches to unwanted sexual behavior (lust management) lack power because they focus on sin management and ignore where we came from (how our past holds keys to sexual brokenness and our sexual brokenness holds keys to our past) and where we are going (identifying a beautiful purpose for our lives). He offers a path forward to healing by pointing us back to the stories that shape our thought lives, sexual fantasies and unwanted sexual behaviors.
Journey into the Heart of Man
Based on research with nearly 4000 people, Journey into the Heart of Man guides you to identify and transform the unique reasons that bring you to your unwanted sexual choices in the first place. This guided course will take you on a radically different journey into your sexual brokenness.
This comprehensive program pairs the work of Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing and the feature film The Heart of Man. It includes 18 full length episodes, detailed assignments, a small group leaders guide, and a cutting-edge self-assessment that shows you exactly what aspects of your story are contributing to your unwanted sexual behavior. It’s designed for Energy Groups, accountability partners, and individuals.
To learn more or sign-up go to: www.heartofmanjourney.com
NCS SPECIAL – Jay is giving New Canaan men $50 off their subscription. Use code: NCS2018 at checkout. Offer expires in one week (12/7/18).
Unwanted Sexual Behavior Self-Assessment
Have you ever wondered the “why” behind the unwanted sexual behaviors your pursue? The Unwanted Sexual Behavior Self-Assessment is designed to show you how your story (past and present) shapes your sexual choices. Until these dimensions of your life are transformed, the struggle with unwanted sexual behavior will often remain. Your journey to freedom begins by recognizing the unique reason that bring you to it.
To learn more or take the USB Self-Assessment: http://jay-stringer.com/usb/
The 2018 New Canaan Society New England Couples Retreat was held November 3-4 at Jiminy Peak Mountain Resort in Hancock, MA. Dr. Skip Moen was our Guide, teaching on his book “Guardian Angel”. This is Session 2.
Here are Skip’s slide from his presentation: Skip-Moen-Ezer-PDF